Monthly Archives: April 2013

To Logan From Daniel 11/5/10


I need to tell you some things. I am weak. I am a liar, and a coward. I am consumed by guilt, and sorrow. I have kept a lot of things from you, for fear of hurting you. I thought I owed it to you to break up with you in person, that you at least deserved to see my pain, and to hear the truth from me, face to face. But I am too weak to stick to my decision in the face of your pain. I am too much of a coward to tell you the truth about how I really feel, and about what I have done. It would just hurt you too badly.. I told you the truth when I said I had never cheated on you. But I have done things that are just as bad..


I am truly sorry for allowing you to grow so attached to me. I never wanted to hurt you. You do not deserve this pain. Nor do you deserve the excruciating pain you would feel if I told you everything I have kept from you. There are things I will never tell you, for to do so would only be cruel, and mean, and hurtful. You are better off not knowing. You could guess at some of it, but it wouldn’t be everything..


You were right when you said I was using my father as an excuse to break up with you. I don’t mean that I was lying about how I felt.. I wasn’t. I truly did feel that I needed to be within easy distance of him, and my siblings, and I still do. I do not belong in the South. I do not belong with a Christian. I do not belong with you. I feel like a stranger when I am in Columbus, like I have no possible way of interacting fully and truthfully with the people I see. I have very little respect for almost anyone I have met while there with you..


We haven’t grown together in our relationship. It has only slowly gotten worse, with minor upticks, followed by more gradual descent. Even when we had months together, things only got worse with time. It’s probably mostly my fault, since I was too scared to let you know what I was really thinking. I know you were joking, but I think you were right about the distance being the reason we stayed together for this long..


I don’t want to lie to you anymore. I don’t want to hide the truth from you. I owe it to you to stop the damage before it continues to get worse. And I owe it to myself to be honest, and stop lying to myself about things I am unable to change. I have given in to my temptations too many times, regardless of my efforts to stop. Everything I have tried to do to change myself has been for you. You did not ask me to change, but I know that you could never accept me for how I truly am. I have shown you only the good in me, with only the smallest of glimpses at the bad. There is so much you don’t know about me, and would never want to know.. My past and present hold a lot of things that you would find ugly, and contemptuous..


Please, don’t think that I have forgotten how much you love me, because I haven’t. Your love is wonderful, and pure. But it is not true Love, because you never saw the truth behind my facade. And our love for each other is not enough. I do not think that we are compatible. I haven’t thought so for awhile.. I tricked myself into ignoring it, and it is wrong for me to continue to do so. It was wrong to do it in the first place, but my optimism and hope blinded me. I wanted so badly for us to work out, for me to be the perfect man for you, so you could truly get everything you want, and need, and deserve.. But I can’t lie to you, or myself, anymore.


It is over, Logan. I hope you can accept my decision, and feel as little pain as possible.. In time, you will find someone who truly deserves you, and whom you truly deserve in turn. You will be happy again, and more happy than you ever were with me. I think you know that we were never as good together as we should have been.. You will find the right man, and he will love you more than anyone ever could. And it will be true.

Valentines Day 2007 To Kelsea From Joseph

Dear Kelsea,

Just a year and a half ago, our lives were not the same.

But just one date and one kiss on the lips lit our flame.

Once only friends, we showed no love or care.

We were looking for someone who was never there.

If I could, I would whisk you away to an island.

Once there, we would walk the beach and make love in the warmth the sand.

If I could, I would give you the heavens above.

And would shine it’s light on our love.

As the the days go by, I am only complete with your gentle kiss.

Should we ever part, the beauty you give to my whole world, I would surely miss.

So light up my life with beautiful smile and your sweet laugh.

Because without you, I am only wilting. Broken in half.

Valentine’s Day is a time for thinking of those who are a special part of our lives and have a special place in our hearts..

Which is why it’s such a perfect time for thinking of you.

Love Always, Joseph

06/07/11 To Logan From Kelsea


I love you so much. Don’t ever think I don’t. I am always here for you and will do anything I can for you.
Everything will get much better, I promise. I know everything can seem stressful like there is a lot to worry about, but there is really not. Just be excited about life and take it easy. I am proud of you for making respectable decisions in life.
Remember, nothing is perfect, but you can just stay on track of becoming the best that you can be.
Trust me, that’s great enough.

“To every sincere prayer an answer will come. It may not come just as you desire, or at the time you look for it; but it will come in the way and at the time that will best fit your need. The prayers you offer in loneliness, in weariness, in trial, God answers, not always according to your expectations, but always for your good.”

Love, Kelsea

Christmas 2010 To Logan From Brandy


My love!

Sometimes in life, if you’re lucky, you will find people you can completely trust, someone who will understand.
For me, that is you and Kelsea.

Love, Brandy

10/22/02 To Logan From Elizabeth


I just wanted to write you and just tell you that you will always be my best friend forever and always.

No matter what happens.. we will always be the best of friends. I love you so much. You’re like a sister to me.

When we leave high school and go to college, let’s always keep in touch so we’ll be best friends forever. Ok?

Lylas, Elizabeth

The Way You Are by Janie Dorin (For Tony)

It was the way you looked at me when I first met you. 
It was the way you made me laugh when i first met you.
It was the way I felt comfortable, instantly, when I first met you.
It was the way you understood my sense of humor when i met you. 
It was the way I didn’t want to say bye when you were leaving.
It was the way you made me want to talk to you everyday.. and still do.
As the days go by, I think about how the second I look into your eyes again, my heart will beat so slow but so fast..
And how I’ll have a horrible case of butterflies. lol
The way you were and how you’re still like that is the reason why I’m completely falling in love with you.
It’s the way we are that makes me want to spend the rest of my life with you. i’m so thankful to have met you, my sweetheart.. my best friend.

Passionate vs. compassionate love by Kendra Cherry

According to psychologist Elaine Hatfield and her colleagues, there are two basic types of love: compassionate love and passionate love. Compassionate love is characterized by mutual respect, attachment, affection and trust. Compassionate love usually develops out of feelings of mutual understanding and shared respect for one another.

Passionate love is characterized by intense emotions, sexual attraction, anxiety and affection. When these intense emotions are reciprocated, people feel elated and fulfilled. Unreciprocated love leads to feelings of despondence and despair. Hatfield suggests that passionate love is transitory, usually lasting between 6 and 30 months.

Hatfield also suggests that passionate love arises when cultural expectations encourage falling in love, when the person meets your preconceived ideas of an ideal love, and when you experience heightened physiological arousal in the presence of the other person.

Ideally, passionate love then leads to compassionate love, which is far more enduring. While most people desire relationships that combine the security and stability of compassionate with the intensity of passionate love, Hatfield believes that this is rare.


Monittering The Term “Love”

On, you can search what people are tweeting about by term. I searched the term “love” and these are some of the results.

“I love honest people.”

“I love my mother.”

“I love my daddy.”

“I love all of my professors.”

“I love God.”

“I love food.”

“I love you.” (6 times)

“I love my life.”

“I love my best friend.”

“I’m in love.”

“My job is weird, but I love it.”

“I love snow.”

“I love this weather.”

“Baby, there you go again making me love you.”

“Love doesn’t break your heart, people do.”

“We live in a generation of no love.”

“Plants seeds of happiness, hope, success, and love. It will all come back to you in abundance. This is the law of nature.”

“I love this song!!”

“I am in love with Esrol Erol and her life lessons.”

“I love to love!”

“Love is what you make it.”

“I love being Latin.”

“Everyone falls in love sometimes.”

“So sick of love songs.”

“Waking up without the people you love makes you realize how important they are in your life.”

” I love Nigerian music.”

“Don’t stress, make love.”

“You. Yes, you. I love you.”

“Love is a blessing from God.”

“I will never find love because I have never loved myself.”

“I love my cousin!!!”

“I love the night.”

“I would rather fight with you than love anyone else.”

“You’re the best, I love you!”

“What you love requires sacrifice.”

“I love cold weather.”

“I was in love with loving.”

“I can not wait to have you in my arms, kiss you, hug you, make sweet love to you.”

“I love my baby sister more than anything!”

“Love is not meant to hurt. If you’re in pain, you’re not experiencing love.”

Thoughts submitted by John Spangler

I think love is very over rated, people are too eager to find it so fast. Everyone is looking for the one so soon in life, people are getting married and having babies way too early. Being in the military, I have seen people get married after only knowing each other for a few months, and yes, they are divorced now. That is how people end up with multiple marriages before they actually find someone they want to be with. People need to slow down with the whole love thing. Because it is strong and hurts people faster than it helps and leaves people with issues and more. Its not something to get caught up in so early in life.

Untitled by C

Lower my defenses 
Overcome the fear of failure
Valiance and trepidation wage war on every word I speak to you 
Every ounce of the past is carried on my shoulders

Is this reality
Say that its so

Have I found the future in your eyes?
Arguing with myself over fate or fiction
Rescue me from these sleepless nights
Devour me