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Making A Relationship Last:

Some of us are concerned about whether our relationship will last or not, which is normal. People can be afraid to lose someone they love. True concern demonstrates care, but worrying too much can destroy a relationship. Relationships are supposed to bring you happiness, not stress.

Making a relationship last relies on treating others how you would want to be treated; to make others feel good, which simultaneously creates good feelings in yourself. If you know and care about what people need, then you are capable of making people feel happy and good. Empathy, from both people involved, leads to a successful relationship. When you communicate with empathy, communication leads to effectiveness and understanding. The point of communication is understanding how another person feels and thinks, not to waste time…

-The person you love needs to know that you care about him or her. The person you love needs to be shown that you care. Caring can be done in many ways, but that all depends on what makes the person happy and what the person needs. You care about someone when you are dedicated to and concerned about their health and happiness.

-The person you love needs to be often thought of. Often enough to truly appreciate the person. Often enough for your love to know how much you deeply love him or her.

-Any action taken towards the person you love needs to be taken with kindness. Always consider how the person feels. Speak words of kindness. Speak the depths of your love through words and actions. Allow your love to know how great he or she is. Hold and kiss each other often.

-Laugh together all the time, as often as you can. There is so much to laugh about and when you have someone you love to laugh with, it makes it so much better. Make sure you and the person laugh in any way you know how. Humor is something to be shared and is one of the best parts of relationships.

-A relationship can’t last without trust. You have to be able to trust each other. This is absolutely necessary. You can’t know each other, if you can’t trust each other. If you can’t trust each other, then nothing can really come out of that, but negativity and dishonesty.

 

How Do You Know You’re In Love?

There are ways to find out whether you’re in love or not. It is important to analyze how this potential love makes you feel. To romantically love a person, you have to love a person as a friend first. Not just a friend, but a best friend. You have to be able to trust each other. How are you able to trust someone? You get to really know someone.

One indicator of truly loving someone could be that you genuinely care about a person so much that you think about the person all the time.. It’s important to realize what you value in a partner. Your thoughts can speak volumes in self-guiding. Below is a list of  indicators I have found through my own experiences and observation.

-When you genuinely and thoughtfully care about the person.

-When you think about how happy he or she makes you.

-When you would do anything for him or her.

-When you’re each other’s best friend.

-When you feel passionate about his or her soul.

-When you feel you can’t live without him or her.

-When you know you would be happy waking up next to him or her everyday.

-When you think about how great he or she is.

-When you think about how sweet he or she is.

-When you think highly and good of the person.

The Most Important Topics To Discuss Before Marriage:

1. Morals & Beliefs

The things you stand for. This has to do with what you believe is right and whether you would be able to be with someone who opposes what you stand for. It’s whether you would be able to be with someone who valued life differently than you. Morals and beliefs are highly relevant when it comes to long term relationships. It’s what you believe in that can make or break a relationship and a marriage. So this is crucial to discuss before committing in that way.

2. Children

Does the person you love want children or not? Do you want children? Child bearing is a relevant topic in all the lives of those who especially do or don’t want them. Need not find out the man or woman you love doesn’t want children after months or years of being together. Be sure that you’re on the same track of mind.

3. Finances

As a married couple, as individuals, there is a fundamental need for security. Our world is ran on money. Without money, there is unfortunately no way to have what you need. Nothing is free. Building a life with the one you love may involve a significant amount of money; especially if you desire children. I am not saying a couple needs to be wealthy, I am saying that you can’t live without financial security.

4. Sexuality

Make sure to discuss your sexual needs with the one you’re with. Different people like different things. You may not be sexually compatible. Sexuality also correlates into your morals and beliefs. When you’re truly married, you’re not going to be with anyone else sexually. Are you deeply enough in love that you wouldn’t want anyone else sexually? What are his or her preferences compared to yours?

Why You Should Love Again:

If you’re going through a process in which your heart feels lonely and hurt, the best thing you can do is love again.

There are so many people who need your love, including the love you need and deserve to have for yourself. There are so many people who would love to be in your presence. There are so many people that need your care. People need your smiles. People need to hear what you have to say.

If falling in love hasn’t been successful for you, eventually it will, but you have to try..

There is nothing like expressing love to other people. It is one of the greatest feelings knowing that you are letting someone know that he or she is loved. Because when people are loved, they are brought back to life. We live because we are loved by other people. We live to love others.

There are billions of  people on this earth and to say that your true love isn’t walking around waiting for you is not actual. Even if your last ten relationships didn’t work out, don’t give up hope. Accept circumstances as well as you can, don’t feel pressure, and feel free through the fact that your heart is now open to find the one you were meant to be with.

Take a look at yourself. See the beauty that you could possibly offer someone. See how valuable you really are. Although your value is actually innumerable, take a look at how wonderful, great, and powerful your love is and has been through the lives of others. Think about how much beauty is created by the power of love and how you and everyone else holds this power.

Misconceptions of A Good Relationship:

 

In the past, I have noticed when observing certain couples, that there is a lack of mutual happiness. I could not possibly count the times I have observed unhappy relationships. Successful relationships are fundamental to a healthy life and yet so many of us are deficient of this. As a human, I naturally become discouraged at times when I experience the unhappiness of other people. I observe what has made others unhappy in love and it makes me wonder why and how it is happening. I have noticed that many people often rationalize and compromise their being, happiness, dignity, and standards just to avoid the feeling of loneliness and that is not fair. It’s not fair to either one involved because the foundation of the relationship is based on lies and love does not strengthen through lies. Lies are the result of unjustifiable rationalization and compromise. Lies withhold people from ever truly being in love and can also result in something far more painful than temporary loneliness.  Lies weaken a system of love because an entire picture is never painted; reality is never painted for either one. Lies create a twisted fantasy and honesty creates real true love; true love of yourself and the rest of humanity.

In any kind of relationship, if you feel compelled to go against your conscience; what you believe to be right; what makes you happy; and unjustifiably change, then you don’t belong in that relationship. You belong with people and lovers who fill your heart with true love. You belong with people who empower the beautiful qualities you possess.

Below are characteristics I have found within relationships, that people continually justify, people continually live with, through the belief that love continually involves these characteristics, when that’s not the case.

Arguing:

It is acceptable to argue at times, but it is wise to really think about what you say because words are powerful. If you were to cause someone pain, it could remain in their mind for years. Depending on how high or low the self esteem of this person, negative words or actions could range from being highly traumatic to neutral, but most of the time, people are going to be hurt when you say mean things about them. If it gets to the point where you argue or feel negatively towards your partner on a daily basis, then there is no time to waste in a relationship like that. If you or your partner’s feelings have been hurt to the point of no return, then you shouldn’t try to come back. If you can’t agree on what each other values, then where do you actually start relating? Most of the time, if people communicate effectively, then arguments never arise. Effective, calm, and rational communication gets the ball rolling to where you can find whether you need to be with or without your current significant other.

Cheating:

Cheating is such a heightened level of betrayal that couples rarely make it through once it occurs. No, it will never be alright to cheat under any circumstance. Cheating ruins a relationship on so many levels. Cheating on someone, in my opinion, is insulting, thoughtless, and careless. It’s one of the most heartbreaking times one could ever experience. If you can’t trust your partner, then you can’t be in love with your partner. Cheating brings distrust and dishonesty into a relationship, and after trust is lost, the heart is extremely difficult to mend. Those who decide to cheat were already feeling a sense of unhappiness and un-fulfillment before the act. The dishonesty, irrationality, and lack of communication from the cheater, is what results in cheating. Relationships don’t work without honesty, rationality, and communication.

Rebounding:

If you have returned to your ex for the 50th time, it doesn’t mean you’re in love, it means you are lonely. You desire attention from someone you know will give it to you, instead of being patient enough to wait for someone you can truly love to come along. Just because you are back with your ex, doesn’t mean you were meant to be with him forever or that you’re in love. Instead you are wasting your time. If you’re truly in love, you would never actually leave the one you truly loved.

Lying:

One of the joys of truly falling in love is that you can be honest with who you love. You can be yourself. If you feel the need to lie, then you are concealing who you really are to the other person, which results in adverse effects. The whole picture isn’t painted for the two of you. Honesty brings depth to love while dishonestly brings separation. Just because you conceal who you are, doesn’t change the reality of who you are. You can either open up or isolate yourself from someone ever knowing and loving who you really are. If you rationally feel a sense of guilt with yourself, then maybe you should become happier with yourself by being someone you actually want to be; someone you don’t have hide. Being honest about yourself and your feelings is absolutely essential, if you ever wish to have a fulfilling relationship.

Passionless:

The passion never has to leave your relationship because you should always be able to remember how much your love means to you. Passion is what keeps people in love. The fire never has to leave if you remind yourself of how important your love is and how empty you would feel without him or her in your life. Take a moment to realize how your life would be like without him or her, and if that is overly-imaginable, then you were never in love to begin with. Passion never leaves between people who are actually in love. The deeper you truly love your partner from the beginning, the deeper passion grows as the relationship progresses. Remember how much life and love you and your partner have generated together. Remember how much your partner has loved you. Remember how loyal your partner is. Remember how good and wonderful he or she has and currently makes you feel. Couples who remember each other, are those who live in passion with each other.

UPDATE:

I would like everyone to know that I have not and will never give up on Logan On Love. The flow of content has simply been put on hold for the time being. Behind the scenes, I have been working towards things that will be shared with everyone in the near future. Logan On Love is not the only work and passion in my life, so I try to dispense my time in the most efficient ways. There is no exact date yet, but content and restoration will be here in due time. There is a theory I have been working on ever since LOL originated, which has been a centerfold of my life for years now, that I can’t wait to conclude and publish. I very much look forward to continuing where I left off. I have thought about you and love everyday of my absence and many years before.

If you would like to contact me about anything, please feel free to do so at logan@loganonlove.com or the Logan On Love Facebook page, and I will get back to you as soon as possible.

I would like to thank you all for your support and patience. I truly appreciate you all. Thank you. 

-Logan

How To Feel Good Again After Breaking Up

Feeling good after a break up isn’t always easy. Break-ups can be especially trying depending on how in love you were or were not.
Bottom line: circumstances have made you feel sad because it didn’t work out. Sometimes people just aren’t meant to be together forever. Breaking up and being rejected sucks, but sometimes a relationship was not meant to be. For the better, for both of you.

At times, it will take a lot of patience to make it through a break up because breaking up can be a seemingly very lonely experience, but the loneliness isn’t real because people love you and people are there for you. Just know that everything will be okay. Break-ups happen all the time. Don’t feel guilty about anything unless you haven’t sincerely apologized for what you may have done to hurt someone’s feelings. People make mistakes. It’s a part of everyone’s life. Don’t allow a break up to plague your life. Be strong. There are many people who love you and will love you once they meet you. Don’t give up. You won’t feel lonely in love forever.

-Remember that everything gets better with time. You will feel better again.

-Focus on other things. You may have to force your mind on other thoughts. It’s not always easy.

-Plan to have a bunch of great days and nights doing what you enjoy.

-Cry. Let it out of yourself, cry to close friends.

-Write down what you think and reflect on what you think.

Get. Out. Of. The. House. Breathe the fresh air. If you remain in the house, you will remain there forever..

-Throw a nice party. Go to a party. Go to a bar. Be responsible and safe doing so.

-Read and learn. Learn anything new. Experience something new.

-Hang out with your friends. Make new friends as well.

-Be who you want to be.

-Exercise to shed the negative energy and feel well rested.

-Always remember how great you really are.

 

Professionals Ask 4-8 Year Olds What Love Means

 

These children here are lovely and their answers are so sweet..

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“When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn’t bend over and paint her toenails anymore.
So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That’s love.”
Rebecca- age 8

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“When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different.
You just know that your name is safe in their mouth.”
Billy – age 4
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“Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other.”
Karl – age 5
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“Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs.”
Chrissy – age 6
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“Love is what makes you smile when you’re tired.”
Terri – age 4
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“Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK.”
Danny – age 7
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“Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more.
My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss.”
Emily – age 8
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“Love is what’s in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen.”
Bobby – age 7
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“If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate.”
Nikka – age 6
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“Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday.”
Noelle – age 7
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“Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.”
Tommy – age 6
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“During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling.
He was the only one doing that. I wasn’t scared anymore.”
Cindy – age 8
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“My mommy loves me more than anybody.
You don’t see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night.”
Clare – age 6
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“Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken.”
Elaine – age 5
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“Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford.”
Chris – age 7
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“Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day.”
Mary Ann – age 4
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“I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones.”
Lauren – age 4
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“When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you.”
Karen – age 7
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“Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn’t think it’s gross.”
Mark – age 6
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“You really shouldn’t say ‘I love you’ unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.”
Jessica – age 8

I Believe

I believe in the sun even when it is not shining.

I believe in love even when I feel it not.

I believe in God even when He is silent.

(written on a wall in a concentration camp)

Passionate vs. compassionate love by Kendra Cherry

According to psychologist Elaine Hatfield and her colleagues, there are two basic types of love: compassionate love and passionate love. Compassionate love is characterized by mutual respect, attachment, affection and trust. Compassionate love usually develops out of feelings of mutual understanding and shared respect for one another.

Passionate love is characterized by intense emotions, sexual attraction, anxiety and affection. When these intense emotions are reciprocated, people feel elated and fulfilled. Unreciprocated love leads to feelings of despondence and despair. Hatfield suggests that passionate love is transitory, usually lasting between 6 and 30 months.

Hatfield also suggests that passionate love arises when cultural expectations encourage falling in love, when the person meets your preconceived ideas of an ideal love, and when you experience heightened physiological arousal in the presence of the other person.

Ideally, passionate love then leads to compassionate love, which is far more enduring. While most people desire relationships that combine the security and stability of compassionate with the intensity of passionate love, Hatfield believes that this is rare.

source: www.about.com