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Making A Relationship Last:

Some of us are concerned about whether our relationship will last or not, which is normal. People can be afraid to lose someone they love. True concern demonstrates care, but worrying too much can destroy a relationship. Relationships are supposed to bring you happiness, not worry.

Making a relationship last relies on treating others how you would want to be treated; to make others feel good, which simultaneously creates good feelings in yourself. If you know and care about what people need, then you are capable of making people feel happy and good. Empathy, from both people involved, leads to a successful relationship. When you communicate with empathy, communication leads to effectiveness and understanding. The point of communication is understanding how another person feels and thinks.

-The person you love needs to know that you care about him or her. The person you love needs to be shown that you care. Caring can be done in many ways, but that all depends on what makes the person happy and what the person needs. You care about someone when you are dedicated to and concerned about their health and happiness.

-The person you love needs to be often thought of. Often enough to truly appreciate the person. Often enough for your love to know how much you deeply love him or her.

-Any action taken towards the person you love needs to be taken with kindness. Always consider how the person feels. Speak words of kindness. Speak the depths of your love through words and actions. Allow your love to know how great he or she is. Hold and kiss each other often.

-Laugh together all the time, as often as you can. There is so much to laugh about and when you have someone you love to laugh with, it makes it so much better. Make sure you and the person laugh in any way you know how. Humor is something to be shared and is one of the best parts of relationships.

-A relationship can’t last without trust. You have to be able to trust each other. This is absolutely necessary. You can’t know each other, if you can’t trust each other. If you can’t trust each other, then nothing can really come out of that, but negativity and dishonesty.

How Do You Know You’re In Love?

There are ways to figure out whether you are in love or not. It is important to analyze how this potential love makes you feel. To fall in love with a person romantically, you have to fall in love with that person as a friend first, and not just a friend, but a best friend. You have to be able to trust each other.

How are you able to trust someone? You get to really know someone. 

One indicator of being truly in love could be that you genuinely care about a person so much that you think about the person all the time. It’s important to realize what you value in a partner. Your thoughts can speak volumes in self-guiding. Below is a list of indicators I have found through my own experiences and observation.

You know you’re in love..

When you genuinely, thoughtfully, and actively care about the person.

When you think about how happy he or she makes you.

When you would do anything for him or her.

When you’re each other’s best friend.

When you feel passionate about his or her soul.

When you feel you can’t live without him or her.

When you know you would be happy waking up next to him or her everyday.

When you think about how great he or she is.

When you think about how sweet he or she is.

When you think highly and good of the person.

Why You Should Love Again

If you are going through a time in which your heart feels lonely and hurt, the best thing you can do is love again.

There are so many people who need your love, including yourself. There are so many people who would love to be in your presence. There are so many people that need you. People need your smiles. People need to hear what you have to say.

If falling in love hasn’t been successful for you, eventually it will, but you have to try. Something as beautiful and as great as finding your true love, will never appear over night.

There are billions of people on this earth, and to say that true love isn’t walking around, and waiting for someone like you, just isn’t the truth. Even if your last ten relationships didn’t work out, don’t ever give up hope. Accept circumstances as well as you can, allow yourself time to grieve, don’t feel pressured, and feel free through the fact that your heart is now open to find the one you were meant to be with.

There is no greater feeling than the product of what expressing love to other people brings. One of the greatest feelings is opening up your heart and letting someone know that he or she is loved. When people are loved, they are brought to life. We live because we are loved by other people. We live to love others.

Recoginize the beauty in yourself and realize how capable you really are. Realize that you are invaluable and irreplaceable. Take a look at how wonderful, great, and powerful your love is and has been through the lives of others. Take a look at how beautiful love has felt in your life when you have received it from others. Think about how much beauty and life is created by the power of love and how you and everyone else holds this power.

How To Feel Good Again After Breaking Up


When a relationship ends, one or both involved suffers from loss and break-ups can be especially painful depending on how attached you are to the person you were once with. Feeling better or good after a break-up isn’t always easy.

Bottom line: circumstances have made you feel sad because it didn’t work out. Breaking up and being rejected sucks, but sometimes a relationship was not meant to be. If either one of you was unhappy, then ending the relationship is for the best. 

At times, it will take a lot of patience to make it through a break up because breaking up can be a seemingly very lonely experience, but the loneliness isn’t real because people love you and people are there for you. Just know that everything will be okay. Break-ups happen all the time. Don’t feel guilty about anything unless you haven’t sincerely apologized for what you may have done to hurt someone’s feelings. People make mistakes. It’s a part of everyone’s life. Don’t allow a break up to plague your life. Be strong. There are many people who love you and will fall in love you once they meet you. Don’t give up. You won’t feel lonely forever.

Remember that everything gets better with time. You will feel better again.

Focus on other things. You may have to force your mind on other thoughts. It’s not always easy.

Plan to have a bunch of great days and nights doing what you enjoy.

Cry. Let it out of yourself, cry to close friends.

Write down what you think and reflect on what you think.

Get. Out. Of. The. House. Breathe the fresh air. If you remain in the house, you will remain there forever..

Throw a nice party. Go to a party. Go to a bar. Be responsible and safe doing so.

Read and learn. Learn anything new. Experience something new.

Hang out with your friends. Make new friends as well.

Be who you want to be.

Exercise to shed the negative energy and feel well rested.

Always remember how great you really are.

 

Professionals Ask 4-8 Year Olds What Love Means

 

These children here are lovely and their answers are so sweet..

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“When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn’t bend over and paint her toenails anymore.
So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That’s love.”
Rebecca- age 8

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“When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different.
You just know that your name is safe in their mouth.”
Billy – age 4
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“Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other.”
Karl – age 5
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“Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs.”
Chrissy – age 6
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“Love is what makes you smile when you’re tired.”
Terri – age 4
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“Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK.”
Danny – age 7
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“Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more.
My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss.”
Emily – age 8
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“Love is what’s in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen.”
Bobby – age 7
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“If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate.”
Nikka – age 6
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“Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday.”
Noelle – age 7
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“Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.”
Tommy – age 6
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“During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling.
He was the only one doing that. I wasn’t scared anymore.”
Cindy – age 8
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“My mommy loves me more than anybody.
You don’t see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night.”
Clare – age 6
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“Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken.”
Elaine – age 5
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“Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford.”
Chris – age 7
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“Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day.”
Mary Ann – age 4
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“I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones.”
Lauren – age 4
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“When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you.”
Karen – age 7
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“Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn’t think it’s gross.”
Mark – age 6
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“You really shouldn’t say ‘I love you’ unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.”
Jessica – age 8

I Believe

I believe in the sun even when it is not shining.

I believe in love even when I feel it not.

I believe in God even when He is silent.

(written on a wall in a concentration camp)

Passionate vs. compassionate love by Kendra Cherry

According to psychologist Elaine Hatfield and her colleagues, there are two basic types of love: compassionate love and passionate love. Compassionate love is characterized by mutual respect, attachment, affection and trust. Compassionate love usually develops out of feelings of mutual understanding and shared respect for one another.

Passionate love is characterized by intense emotions, sexual attraction, anxiety and affection. When these intense emotions are reciprocated, people feel elated and fulfilled. Unreciprocated love leads to feelings of despondence and despair. Hatfield suggests that passionate love is transitory, usually lasting between 6 and 30 months.

Hatfield also suggests that passionate love arises when cultural expectations encourage falling in love, when the person meets your preconceived ideas of an ideal love, and when you experience heightened physiological arousal in the presence of the other person.

Ideally, passionate love then leads to compassionate love, which is far more enduring. While most people desire relationships that combine the security and stability of compassionate with the intensity of passionate love, Hatfield believes that this is rare.

source: www.about.com

Monittering The Term “Love”

On monitter.com, you can search what people are tweeting about by term. I searched the term “love” and these are some of the results.

“I love honest people.”

“I love my mother.”

“I love my daddy.”

“I love all of my professors.”

“I love God.”

“I love food.”

“I love you.” (6 times)

“I love my life.”

“I love my best friend.”

“I’m in love.”

“My job is weird, but I love it.”

“I love snow.”

“I love this weather.”

“Baby, there you go again making me love you.”

“Love doesn’t break your heart, people do.”

“We live in a generation of no love.”

“Plants seeds of happiness, hope, success, and love. It will all come back to you in abundance. This is the law of nature.”

“I love this song!!”

“I am in love with Esrol Erol and her life lessons.”

“I love to love!”

“Love is what you make it.”

“I love being Latin.”

“Everyone falls in love sometimes.”

“So sick of love songs.”

“Waking up without the people you love makes you realize how important they are in your life.”

” I love Nigerian music.”

“Don’t stress, make love.”

“You. Yes, you. I love you.”

“Love is a blessing from God.”

“I will never find love because I have never loved myself.”

“I love my cousin!!!”

“I love the night.”

“I would rather fight with you than love anyone else.”

“You’re the best, I love you!”

“What you love requires sacrifice.”

“I love cold weather.”

“I was in love with loving.”

“I can not wait to have you in my arms, kiss you, hug you, make sweet love to you.”

“I love my baby sister more than anything!”

“Love is not meant to hurt. If you’re in pain, you’re not experiencing love.”

Update:

Hello, everyone. How are you? I hope you are all doing well..

I would like to apologize again for the site/poetry contest disruption. I am now in the midst of reconstructing the site and you can still contact me while I do so. I had to swipe all the content from my site in order to fix the problem. I will be posting all entries back up as soon as possible..

Poetry contest entries will be due on the 11th of April and will be judged on the 14th.

Please submit all entries to the Contact Me section by clicking here.

I would also like to thank all of my supporters, friends, and admirers for being so kind to me and helping me out so much. I will always appreciate you.. There is a theory I have been working on for some years now and I am trying to prove it. I have spent day after day solidifying the reasons why our hearts break which has resulted with what I call Heartbreak Theory. My time has been very full of thinking and research.

The subject of heartbreak has lead me into some sort of temporary depression. I suppose from thinking about it all the time, but it also makes me feel good to know that I have not lost my compassion and empathy. My theory can be directed towards those who have.. My theory should encompass how important fulfilling responsibility is, how at some point in our lives, past, present or future, we were/will be responsible for breaking someone’s heart, how most if not all of us have endeared a broken heart, how to prevent a broken heart, and lastly the reasons why.

Please feel free to contact me anytime. I am still taking love stories, love poems, love song requests, any feeling, any form of expression towards love, ect.. I want to hear about it from you and I am interested. Love should be displayed, not depleted. Love should be celebrated and acknowledged. Whether you’re happy, sad, angry with love, please offer your insight and/or criticism, so we can all learn how to better love one another. Vent your soul to me, tell me how you feel. We all live because we love.